Finding your way back to you after separation and divorce
Separation is one of the most disorienting experiences a person can go through. It’s not just the loss of a relationship; it’s the unravelling of the life you built around it.
The routines, the shared spaces, the future you thought was certain,
all of it shifts, leaving you in a space that feels unfamiliar and overwhelming.
At first, it can feel like free-falling. The emotions will come in waves; grief, relief, loneliness, anger, exhaustion, even unexpected moments of peace.
It doesn’t seem to matter whether you decide to divorce or your spouse decides to end the marriage, the person who once felt like home is now a stranger, and you’re left standing in the ruins of what was, unsure how to move forward.
This uncertainty can be terrifying.
We crave stability, and relationships often give us a sense of grounding and familiarity that satisfies that craving. When that foundation cracks, it’s natural to feel lost.
The unknown stretches out ahead, full of questions you never expected to ask:
Who am I without this relationship?
What do I do with all this pain?
Will I be okay?
Here’s the truth…
You will
Not because time alone magically heals all wounds, but because within you is a strength you may not even realize yet.
And it’s not about erasing the past.
It’s about learning to carry it differently, to make peace with the pieces of yourself that feel broken, and to start piecing together something new, something that is wholly yours.
You are not starting over; you are starting again. With more wisdom, more strength, and a deeper understanding of your own worth. And that? That is a beginning worth celebrating.
Separation isn’t just an ending….it’s an invitation.
An invitation to rediscover yourself, to rebuild your life in a way that aligns with who you are now. It’s a chance to reclaim the pieces of yourself that may have been quieted or lost in the relationship. Parts that even you have forgotten about.
But before you can fully step into this new chapter, you have to allow yourself to grieve. Too often, we rush past the pain, trying to distract ourselves or force healing before we’re ready.
Grief isn’t something to be conquered, it’s something to be honoured.
It’s proof that you invested, that you loved, that you showed up. And if you could do that before, you can do it again.
Healing doesn’t mean forgetting.
It doesn’t mean pretending it never hurt. It means learning to hold the pain with compassion while slowly making space for what comes next.
It means trusting that, even in the mess of it all, you are in the process of becoming something stronger, something wiser, something more you than ever before.
And you don’t have to do it alone!
If you’re navigating this transition, I’m holding space for you to walk this path, to grieve, to process, and to step forward with strength.
Because separation is not just about what you’ve lost, it’s about what you are ready to reclaim.
My biggest advice?
Keep it simple!
Try to stay on top of what I call the ‘building blocks of mental health’.
Eat well, move, sleep, drink water, reach out for your supports.
One day at a time, that’s all you need to do!
I say this with genuine care and zero judgment, believe me, I’ve been deep in the overwhelm too.
There were days where cookie dough was breakfast, lunch, and dinner, zero fucks given. But here’s the thing: what feels like comfort in the moment often becomes something else you have to recover from later.
So if you can, nourish your body. Let yourself rest. Make space, on purpose, for care, even in small ways.
These anchors will help you find your way through the waves of this life change.
One breath, one choice, one step at a time.
Healing, Wealth & Worth Event
If you're ready to take your healing to the next level, I’m hosting a powerful in-person gathering for women.
A space to connect, share, and learn practical tools to support you through this deeply personal life transition.
Come as you are, and leave feeling more anchored, more seen, and more equipped for what’s next.
